Some females get shirty if members of their gender are considered sluts for sleeping around, whilst men earn only compliments from their friends and the right to wear some kind of badge with the word STUD on it. Understandably, in their justified crusade for equality, this isn't right.
So t'other day part of my Psychology course meant i had to learn a little on Evolutionary Psychology. I read with interest that there could be an evolutionary explanation for such behaviour. The theory goes that long ago, males would mate with as many females as possible in order to ensure their genetic line continues. It was like a fail safe. The more the merrier and the more chance of your blood line being continued. Don't think it was a conscious effort, it was instinctual. The women would go for mates that were strong and capable of bringing home the food.
Males would also go for women that looked healthy. Healthy enough to produce healthy offspring. From this we could derive the nature of beauty, and maybe even a tenuous link to beauty products as concealers and foundations mask any impurities and give gullible males the idea that yes actually my skin is just fine.
The evolutionary idea also attempts to explain why women go for men who are wealthy and older then they. Bernie Eccleston for example, is very old. And he's small. And he's kinda funny looking. His wife however, is tall and glamourous and they look very odd in photographs. Bernie provides though. Very well indeed. He is a billionaire. His wife need not want for anything. The evolution theory thinks it has that explained. Bernie is the provider, so he's a hot catch. His genes look good, even if he doesnt look good out of his jeans.
I was in conversation once with my friend Sarge and Mother-Of-Child. They were wondering out loud - as i was trying to read of all things - why it was that men couldn't see through the fat of fat women and just take them for who they are. There's so many ironies with their meanderings i don't know where to start but that's not the point today. In an attempt to cease their ramblings, i said that in my opinion it was because men like the idea of women who look after themselves. A woman who dresses nicely and has splendid hair and takes pride in her appearance could be seen as at ease with herself and confident too. She won't be a handful.
A chubby girl with lank hair and questionable dress sense obviously has esteem issues and is best avoided. Who wants to hang around with someone who's down on themselves?
I was simplifying, but now i can see that i had a point. If a woman looks after herself, it should stand to reason she'll look after your offspring too, ergo she appears attractive and you want to fuck her.
However, we have a few problems creeping in. Firstly women can and do fuck around. It is no longer only the rights of males to 'pull' on a Saturday night and creep out early on a Sunday morning. I know girls that arrange for weekend trips here and there and the majority of them will let a stranger insert his penis into their birth canal, and they'll never see or hear of each other again. I'm not moralising, it's their body and their choice.
Secondly, in my experience those women that take pride in their appearance and wear name brands and hair extensions and heels to make them taller are usually selfish creatures who spurn the idea of raising a child because it would take up time. Time they could be spending in clothes shops or planning a weekend trip with the girls. The chubby ones with the lank hair may well come into their own when they have a new life to take care of. They may find it gives their life purpose and meaning, and they may flourish into the best person they can be, fiercly proud and protective of their children.
Where then, does the theory go? Social trends and attitudes seem to be battling evolutionary instincts here, which may create an inner turmoil not yet researched or studied by those who are in a position to do so.
The notion of attraction is an odd one. Only the other day a friend of mine said she found someone 'horny' because he looks like he's an asshole. This is one of the most confusing things you can say to me. Not least because i have funny ideas about the notion of what's fair and what's not, but because it backs up the saying 'Nice guys finish last', and that strikes me as rather depressing. How does liking someone who looks like they're going to be a jerk fit in with things? Perhaps it doesn't matter and as long as the genes look attractive, the actions don't have a bearing on things.
I am fascinated by what people see in other people, and i always like it when people say ' I cant understand what she sees in him '. No you won't love because you are looking at it from your own dumb ass point of view and know nothing about their lives and how they are when you're not around.
I like it when gorgeous women are on the arm of ugly guys. Maybe because i always like it when an underdog wins. Maybe because it pisses the attractive guys off. Maybe because the ugly guy is wealthy and the evolutionary psychologists light themselves a self-congratulatory cigar. Maybe because it gives me hope. We love to think we roam around with free will, doing, saying and thinking whatever we please. Really, we're just going through the same genetically instructed motions that our ancestors did.
